Relationship Rules

We all want that perfect relationship, but that just isn’t going to happen. There will be arguments, upsets, and even confusion with your partner. There are ways to lessen arguments and be happy in a relationship. I am going to go over a few tips that couples should try to live by in order to make your relationship better than ever.

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First, you and your partner should never be angry at the same time. Why? Because this will cause for the arguing stage to be more of a mess than it should be. One person should always remain calm to keep the other one calm.

Second, never yell at each other unless there’s an emergency (like the house is on fire). This definitely fits in with the first step. Both of you don’t need to be yelling at each other and by only one person being angry, yelling won’t be much of an option. I mean who wants to argue with someone who isn’t arguing back?!

Third, if steps one and two fail and one of you has to win the argument, let it be your spouse. I know, I know. Just put your pride to the side and be the bigger person even if you don’t want to, especially if the matter is small and won’t affect you in the long run. Stay sane and don’t complain.

Fourth, if you do have to criticize your partner, do it in a nice way. Let your partner know you love them and you just want to share your thoughts and feelings with them. Start out by letting them know that you don’t mean to offend them, but you just want to be open and honest.

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Fifth, try not to bring up mistakes from the past. It’s very hard not to do this. (trust me I know) But the only way to move forward is to stop living in the past. If you must, have a conversation with your partner about the mistakes that were made, ask any and every question you need to about the situation, cry it out, hug it out, pray about it, and let it go.

Next, as a couple you should never neglect one another. Your partner needs you more than you’ll ever know. Shut everyone else out but never them. Never! You never want your partner to resort to going elsewhere for attention because that can lead to all kinds of drama, and a broken relationship. Always make yourself available.

Also, at least once a day make an effort to compliment your partner or say something nice. Preferably in the morning. This could give them the start to their day that they need or even motivate them. These little things will brighten up their day and they will always remember it. Trust me.

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Lastly, here’s the hard step. When you have done something wrong, admit it, and ask for forgiveness. You don’t want to leave anything in the dark nor do you want your partner to find out from someone else. Find the time to talk to your partner about the matter and then come to a solution of how you both want to deal with it. Your partner may forgive you and they may not but at least you were honest about it, and that’s one thing they will respect.

If all fails, try couples counseling! I hope that these tips  help you out in your relationship. Everyone deals with things differently but leading by these great steps should make it a little better. Take it one day at a time and be patient.

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18 Comments

  1. I don’t agree with the first one because anger is a feeling, and you can’t control your feelings. But just because you’re angry doesn’t mean you need to yell or even fight with your partner. I read once that in a conflict, it’s you & your partner against the problem. I love that idea!

  2. Never yell At each other unless there’s an emergency… Lol. I love this tip. Especially as I hear my husband shouting from down the hall that the bathroom is out of TP

  3. I love the advice to compliment your partner or say something nice every day. That is a great way to continue building your relationship and a great way to start a new day.

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