Twenty Eighteen

Happy MLK Day everyone!

We are already halfway through the first month of the new year. Can you believe it? Pretty soon Valentine’s Day will be here which is one of my favorite holidays!

2018 goals

This year, so far, I’ve set a goal of losing weight, starting up my natural body care line, and incorporating more planned family time.

I always seem to struggle with the losing weight part. Mainly because I tend to get so unmotivated and then randomly motivated at the weirdest times. Have you ever been laying in bed at night and then BOOM, instant motivation, only to wake up the next morning and put off all those goals and dreams another week? Yes, that’s me on a weekly basis.

The same goes for the natural body care line I’ve been wanting to do for a while now. I’ve done my research and know all the tools and products I need to make it happen but I just haven’t moved forward with it. This year I’m hoping to go ahead and leave more time to get it at least started. That way maybe the process won’t seem so long and I’ll have an idea of if it’s truly something I want to do.

And finally, I am making more of an effort to have more “planned” family time. Don’t get it confused, I spend time with my family but most of the time it’s sporadic and mostly during the common holidays. (Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving) For example, today I took my son to see “Coco” at the movies for the first time. (He’s four years old) I was pretty apprehensive in the leading months because he gets extremely distracted. I didn’t know if it would be an experience wasted or not. But I want to start planning similar dates like that with my son. At least once a month now that I know he can handle it. “Coco” was a very good movie by the way! It definitely gives you that “Family is everything” vibe.

Your 2018 Goals?

For those of you who have set goals for yourself in the year 2018, how is it coming along? What kinds of resolutions do you have?

 

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Relationship Rules

We all want that perfect relationship, but that just isn’t going to happen. There will be arguments, upsets, and even confusion with your partner. There are ways to lessen arguments and be happy in a relationship. I am going to go over a few tips that couples should try to live by in order to make your relationship better than ever.

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First, you and your partner should never be angry at the same time. Why? Because this will cause for the arguing stage to be more of a mess than it should be. One person should always remain calm to keep the other one calm.

Second, never yell at each other unless there’s an emergency (like the house is on fire). This definitely fits in with the first step. Both of you don’t need to be yelling at each other and by only one person being angry, yelling won’t be much of an option. I mean who wants to argue with someone who isn’t arguing back?!

Third, if steps one and two fail and one of you has to win the argument, let it be your spouse. I know, I know. Just put your pride to the side and be the bigger person even if you don’t want to, especially if the matter is small and won’t affect you in the long run. Stay sane and don’t complain.

Fourth, if you do have to criticize your partner, do it in a nice way. Let your partner know you love them and you just want to share your thoughts and feelings with them. Start out by letting them know that you don’t mean to offend them, but you just want to be open and honest.

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Fifth, try not to bring up mistakes from the past. It’s very hard not to do this. (trust me I know) But the only way to move forward is to stop living in the past. If you must, have a conversation with your partner about the mistakes that were made, ask any and every question you need to about the situation, cry it out, hug it out, pray about it, and let it go.

Next, as a couple you should never neglect one another. Your partner needs you more than you’ll ever know. Shut everyone else out but never them. Never! You never want your partner to resort to going elsewhere for attention because that can lead to all kinds of drama, and a broken relationship. Always make yourself available.

Also, at least once a day make an effort to compliment your partner or say something nice. Preferably in the morning. This could give them the start to their day that they need or even motivate them. These little things will brighten up their day and they will always remember it. Trust me.

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Lastly, here’s the hard step. When you have done something wrong, admit it, and ask for forgiveness. You don’t want to leave anything in the dark nor do you want your partner to find out from someone else. Find the time to talk to your partner about the matter and then come to a solution of how you both want to deal with it. Your partner may forgive you and they may not but at least you were honest about it, and that’s one thing they will respect.

If all fails, try couples counseling! I hope that these tips  help you out in your relationship. Everyone deals with things differently but leading by these great steps should make it a little better. Take it one day at a time and be patient.

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